“Offer right sacrifices and trust in the Lord.” Psalm 4
My wife and I have developed our own language. If I say—as I did last night—that tonight I’d
be going to a “should thing,” what both of us know I mean is that I really
don’t want to. I’d love to stay home; in
fact, I’d much, much rather stay home.
But I’m not. I’m going. It’s a
“should thing.”
What both of us know is that, in life, often as not, we have
to do things we’d rather not. We do them
because we should. In the
Christian’s life “should things” compel us much more often than they do, I’d
guess, in a life that isn’t entangled in the commitments that arise from church
and school and what not else with a halo.
Is it good for me—doing a whole raft of “should
things?” Wouldn’t I be better off
emotionally if I didn’t get collared by responsibilities that, with just a
little tweaking, might well be seen as, well, appearances anyway? “I really should be there,” I say sometimes. Can conscience ever be a burden? Don’t all of us want to flip off the world
once in a while and go our own way? I
sure do. Don’t tell anybody, but often
as not we get downright sick and tired of “should things.”
Of course, I choose to live in a small community, where what
it costs to flip off the world is nothing to sneeze at. Where’s there’s no anonymity, there’s tons
more responsibility, or so it seems to me.
My wife and I live in a virtual Wal-Mart of “should things.” There are “should things” every blasted night. Maybe I’m overstating.
David’s twelve-step program in Psalm 4 continues in verse
five with a couple of “should things”:
“offer right sacrifices and trust in the Lord.”
Honestly, I don’t have much trouble with the trusting, but
his first admonition strikes me as a “should thing.” It shouldn’t, but it does. Which is another conundrum, I guess, isn’t
it?
If you want to get answers to prayers, David says, here’s a
list of things to do; one of them is offer “right sacrifices.” It’s not even a matter of should here,
it’s a matter of must. Sacrifice. Give of yourself. Echelons of therapists be hanged, if you want
to sleep well (which is, in a way, what this Psalm in about), there are these
things you should do.
I remember reading Abraham Kuyper’s suggestions for “should
things.” He advised that if we really
wanted to be near unto God we should act like him: we should forgive,
we should love unconditionally, we should seek the best for
others, we should sacrifice.
You’ll know him best by doing what he does—that’s what Kuyper
suggests. It made sense when I read it,
and it makes sense today when I think it through. But oh, my goodness, what a multitude of
“should things.” And they’re all tough.
Yes, my dear, there are “should things.” And yes, me, we ought to do them. We must.
And we’ve certainly got this much up on David, poet or
King. We know darn well that some
massively important things were done deliberately for us—and those events
weren’t “should things” either. Start
here, why don’t you: a cross, a death, a
trip to hellishness.
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1 comment:
I left the world of shoulding on myself, shoulding on my wife and kids and shoulding on my friends and have learned to relax in His love daily, hourly and sometimes by the minute. I trust fully that the author and finisher of my faith will touch my heart at whatever work He is doing in my midst ... and even if I choose not to ... He can still work with and through that :)
A should relationship is a duty ... and an older generation knows the the alternate word for duty ...
Those with hearts linked closely with God's needs no rules or lists ... Or even the guilt of a should to live the abundant life IMHO
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